1. Intro

Today, I want to talk about a mistake that a lot of crews make. Last week, I was out with a bunch of friends at Phuture. These friends are guys who I just met during my military re-service and not the dudes from my usual crew. Among them were a few people who I would consider naturals. They did a lot of things that were very much similar to the way I operate. Uninhibited fun, establishing credibility etc. I realised however, that there was something that was really hindering them from achieving potentially greater results.

2. ISOLATION

While this may come naturally to the guys who pass through Dating-SG and TDD doors, I realised that it was not only my friends who committed this mistake. As I was aware of this, I started taking a good look around me and realised that it was happening EVERYWHERE. So what is this mistake? There was no ISOLATION.

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Yes, you think you have done your job of leading the girl away from her friends. You think that you and her are alone. But have you considered that she knows that YOUR FRIENDS are looking as well? When my friends and I were with girls, the dudes who were alone were hovering around and looking. I even had this really fucking annoying thing happened to me : I was dancing with a girl and we were really into the dance. All of a sudden, I felt vigorous tapping on my shoulder. When I turned around, it turned out that one of the guys I just met who I thought was kinda cool (initially, boy, how wrong was I) felt that it was appropriate to do this to me

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All this, in full view of the girl I was dancing with. This is when I decided to be a bastard and lied. I took my girl by the hand and to another part of the club. Once there, I asked her, “What’s up with your friend?” A heated debate about who’s friend that was ensued lol…

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To the regulars of the night scene out there, understand that the crew that rolls with you is going to play a part in the girl’s perception of you as well. If you haven’t already sorted the issue of winging out with your wingmen/wingwomen, I think it’s about time. As you already know, girls behave differently when they are alone with you, as compared to when her friends or yours are around. Of course, as a player in the club, if you notice any of your crew hindering the progress of another player, do point it out to them as well. Whatever happens, good, bad, ugly, it’s a crew’s thing. I wrote a comprehensive article on how to become a Naturally Attractive Wingman catered to a Singaporean context so do check it out and share it with your crew.

6. Conclusion

Things really start heating up when you and the girl are in isolation. With that said, make sure that you isolate properly! This applies not just in a club setting but to other settings as well, house parties, social circle outings etc.